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Showing posts with label colours of Greetings. Show all posts

Friday, 15 May 2020

"Uncertainty and balancing life"

"Uncertainty and balancing life"

Life comprises a string of events that emerge one after another. Some of these events which occur like clockwork already possess a claim for their inevitable affairs; particularly birth, death, and our survival in it.

These events take place in every individual's life irrespective of his gender, age, financial or social status, and also whether he is good or evil in other’s wisdom. Though each of us knows that these events must take place at their destined time, there are certain elements of ‘uncertainty’ around them, and this are what make life more interesting.

There are several occasions in life when things seem to be really gloomy and no way out or no ray of light to be seen but eventually, these situations pass as there is no assurance that things have to be as they are. Thus, uncertainty sometimes also builds hope to live and is the reason for us to smile. 

Certainty is fine, but if it displaces this uncertainty in our life affairs, it will make life kinda boring as there will be no domain for speculation and nothing to anticipate in that case. What about the fun and excitement quotient for watching, or playing a game in which you already came to know who the winner is going to be? 

This elucidates, it is the uncertainty around the aftermath of the game that compels us to watch it. 

Therefore, pondering upon what life is all about, I speculate that it is not a steady voyage, but is filled with lots and lots of twists and turns arising mainly from these uncertainties. And in between these uncertainties, life’s voyage is navigated by our frequently shifting set of priorities, interests, wishes, and influence driven thoughts.

Considering myself, I have noticed that pursuing one interest has caused another to dwindle such as when my occupation of teaching becomes the main area of focus, my family and social life subsides. 

In this way, I discovered that ship of life needs a constant balancing act to propel through the anticipated voyage. Of course, there are a few who seemingly do it all and do it well, too. Nevertheless, they appear to be balancing it all by sacrificing at least a minute bit of either their career or family life or interests.

‘This is an art and artist needs to be applauded.’  

Uncertainty and balancing life

Now, here I perplex on some thoughts, 

‘Is there any way to do this without any compromise? ;

‘Can anyone really balance this perfectly, or is this just an illusion?’ ;

‘However, if a compromise is obliged for a balanced life, then doesn't the whole scenario change? ’ ;

‘If this is so, then a balanced life seems to be an illusion without compromising? Or do people who seem to have things in balance without compromise, perceive life differently? ’

It's not that all is smooth and steady in people’s career and family life, who balancing their life’s scenario; but perhaps it might be the way they look at things. Their idea of accepting things as they are and non-attachment to these things by letting them the way they are, that makes them so successful!

'Their perception of their life's' condition is the key to their balanced life.’

Earlier, I would be surprised to see some people simply float through life And would have found it hard to accept their attitude of gratitude even in adverse situations. Then, as time passed, I realized they were the ones who had figured out the exact meaning of life! So I gradually embarked on imitating them.

Truly, it was and is a real challenge- like balancing a small log piece in the fast-moving shaky currents of a river! And it has to be done without a facet of blame! And what I conclude is.......

Life gives us many second chances to do things up to our utmost satisfaction level and balancing act never ends.

It's a tricky match between our will power and our uncertain fate where winner and loser are never known. So, enjoy this game of life without taking either of the sides and be determined to pursue it despite setbacks. 

Thursday, 16 May 2019

Prayers: a contented state of being

It was Sunday morning, I with my two daughters was offering the worship together. The younger one was in a hurry so as soon as we completed our prayers, she asked me for ’Prasad: a food offering made to God’, and went outside to play. However, I did not have any complaint about it as already she had the patience to do prayers with all her attention. 

However, I was astounded over my elder daughter who was still there with no sign of rush; she seemed to be thinking about something. Holding a white petalled flower in her hand palm, she looked at me, and asked ”Do our prayers reach God? ” I was not surprised as it was the same question that I had in my mind when I was of her age. I kept one of my hand on her shoulder and replied, “ Before answering this particular question, I want you to understand the purpose of prayer. I looked at the flower in her hand and continued, ”When a flower blossoms, it spreads its fragrance but the main purpose of the flower is to bloom; not to ensure that the fragrance spread everywhere. Thus ’our prayers are merely a means to reach to God!’. They are not at all like demands so that we have an eagerness to find out whether the demands would be fulfilled or not. 

The little girl smiled; reflecting her gratification. She offered the flower to the idol of Lord Krishna and went to join her sister.

Though I have already answered the question ’Do our prayers reach God?’, my mind, as usual, started pondering in an emerging world of ’interconnected questions’. However, heartful thinking never fails to answer.

Why did this question arise? If a prayer is called to be a prayer, it is enough. But the real question is, do our prayers come from the heart? If they do, then it is certainly enough. If a prayer weighed down with demands is not a prayer at all. The sanctity of the prayer lies in desirelessness. 

What is prayer? Reading or verbalising some words cannot be called prayer. No matter how many times we repeat the words if our heart is not moved, it is not true prayer. Only the strong emotions of affection emerging from our heart can transform us, not those borrowed words.

Prayer does not mean memorising certain words and repeating them. To say something that has been memorised is like replaying a tape. Whatever is borrowed, memorised or prep in advance is not a prayer. That which is ours, spontaneous and not rehearsed, is a prayer. The more prepared you are, the more superficial you and your prayer will be.

Prayers, seem to have disappeared from this world because they are taught, instead of being kindled. And since such prayer is not kindled from within, life remains empty. Therefore the very act of teaching makes it worthless.

It is the same as with respect and affection. You can't be taught both of them. These are spontaneous things. If you, 'study' how to respect and affectionate, they become artificial. This kind of respect, this kind of affection is not real. All you need is the opportunity to manifest it.

For instance, if someone wants to sleep, what he do? He can draw the curtains to prevent the light from entering the room. He can make his bed nice and cosy. He can switch on the fan. All these efforts are not to get sleep, but to overcome the obstacles to sleeping, such as light, an uncomfortable bed, heat and so on. All these can be helpful in sleeping, but they can't bring sleep; sleep comes on its own.

It is the same with prayer. Just detach yourself from the noise outside. Sit by yourself for some time, forget the world and connect with your inner self. Dig deep within initially, you may encounter just pebbles, stones, but if you keep digging deeper within yourself, a fountain of bliss will spring forth. Wait for it patiently.

True prayer begins as a request to change oneself and culminates in a tranquil silent and thoughtless state of mind. On the other side, any request for changing circumstances cannot be called a prayer. That would be sheer begging.

For centuries, begging has been practised in the name of prayer; that is why such prayer does not blossom in the heart to give joy.

Prayer is a serene state of mind, and not mere chanting of a mantra for the fulfilment of a desire. Some pray in the belief that if you ask with faith, you will receive it. They believe that begging is praying. But the enlightened beings say that if we entertain desire such as, ‘ I hope I get this, I hope I don't get that’,  then it is not prayer. The moment desires are appended to prayer, the wings of worship are clipped.

Everyone’s prayer is different, but the inner state from where prayers emerge is the same. Prayer is an inner expression of joy and a contented state of being.

Friday, 13 July 2018

Mind and health synchronization

During last few decades, I have noticed that, diseases related to stress and life style have increased tremendously. Occasionally I have also experienced the same but analysing the 'Mind-health synchronization': I am overpowering them.

Mind and health synchronization

Actually, stress related diseases first originate in one's mind then affect physically. It's our belief system, attitudes, habits or situations that lands us in mental instability results in poor mental health.

Some of the major warning signals of poor mental health are:

- Continuously unhappy
- Always worrying
- Mood swings
- Depression
- Disability to be with people
- Often get upset- if routine is disturb

And can cause multiple aches like regular insomnia: a sleep disorder, lethargy: a fatigue syndrome, or obesity, where no many times physical cause is detected.

All of these have direct impact on mental,  social, and physical health, due to which a series of hormonal changes occur. Many endocrine glands in the body get disturbed includes thyroid, parathyroid,  adrenal, ovaries, testis, pancreas,  pituitary and hypothalamus. It also found that stress also affects autonomous nervous system disturbing bodily functions like digestion and respiration, deteriorating our health.

Need to control over this, we have to check out for our cortisol levels. Cortisol is a ‘stress hormone’ that our bodies release in response to anxiety in mind; over prolonged periods, higher cortisol levels have been linked to a wide range of health derangements like heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, a lowered immune response, arthritis and various other diseases including depression. Apparently our mind can make one sick or speed the healing process by stress management: poor or good, correspondingly.

It's important to note that "mind" is not synonymous with brain which we often think to be same. Instead, the mind consists of mental states such as thoughts, emotions, beliefs, attitudes, and images. The brain is the hardware kind that allows us to experience these mental states. Each mental state has a physiology associated with it—a positive or negative effect felt in the physical body. For example, the mental state of anxiety causes you to produce stress hormones. Our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and attitudes can positively or negatively affect our health and body.

Now we understand 'mind' plays a vital role in promoting or deteriorating one's health.

On the other hand, what we do with our physical body: what we eat; quality and quantity, how much we exercise, even our posture can impact our mental state positively or negatively. 

Thus Mind and health synchronization is very much important to work on as both have an interrelationship between them. 

If we can strengthen this connection positively and understand it, we can conquer stress and related diseases. This can be achieved by empowering inner self by meditation and yoga like therapies as well as by paying attention to the inner world of thoughts, feelings, attitudes, visions to connect with the outer material world in better way and importantly, it will build up a good health and mind sync.

All of us can lead  to a successful happy and healthy life by having a positive mind outlook that not only can improve quality of life but also give our health a boost and this is what 'mind and health synchronization'. 

Monday, 25 June 2018

'A thankful note' for all parents

Hey parents, living in every corner of the mother earth; this is my thankful note to all of you, saluting to your selfless parenthood and I really value it from the bottom of my heart as I am also rooting for the same.

A parent; mother or father is someone who willingly, always there to support and care her or his child with utmost unconditional love, patience and sensibilities. They come together as parents to upbring their kids from a completely innocent infant to a socially responsible person by providing them  emotional, social, psychological, educational and financial support with ultra protection. They simply live to love their kids and thus are always above everything as their love is so unconditional that no one could replace it ever.

The journey of parenthood is not simple at all. Only you, parents; know how do you all managing it selflessly with your own unique style. That's why I found it worthy to dedicate this simplest and not enough 'Thankful Note' to all of you. 

Though, parents never need any kind of appreciation from anyone, it might motivate many like me or who sometimes face routine troubles to deal with kids.

Parents, you go through various  kinds of resposibities while raising your kids with plenty of to-do and not-to-do lists at different stages of life.

When kid is to be born, mother to be take care of herself, like never before and never after also, while father to be speeds up in gathering all strenghts, necessary to secure his kid's future. On arrival of baby, both of you, just dedicate yourselves pampering your young one as parents to be best.

Sleepless night, half-eaten food plate, edging social life, ignored health care,  anxiety about future, side lined career specially in mother cases..and many more issues just get vanish within a second, on 'one' smile of your kids...... How wonderfully this parenthood heals it's  many worries with mere happiness of kids.

Many times, being parents; you have to go through roller coaster ride of appreciation and critism regarding your parenting. Free advices and tips will never end, few being actually needed.

Keeping moral values in head and monitoring your role play character in  kids upbringing matters a lot. It's not difficult but not simple too because kids have their own way towards approaching every other situations and you are always there to guide, to appreciate and sometimes you even get angry with them to alert or seek good out of it; hoping kids will understand the case. And when kids grows up, you all need to be considerably flexible with kids in giving advice or making decisions. Your parenthood rewards to be proud that time when your kid respect your journey as a person and understand you as a parent with their affection and not just with their academical or social achievements.

Me as daughter do admire my parents 'parenthood' but being parent of daughters I just salute their parenting as well as of all parents.

"Parents, you all are priceless entities....."

Sunday, 20 May 2018

'Belated happy birthday' Little Sis

My dearest little Sis,

Belated happy birthday!!!!!!!!!
You might be surprised, getting birthday wish few days after your birthday.....from none other than your own elder sister. This has a purpose.

Family, relatives, friends and colleagues might have called up or messaged or even caught you right there to shower blessings on that auspicious day. Many of them might have brought gifts and sent cakes to express their affection towards you. Unlikely I am penning down ' an open letter ' to you. Because after this  'one day of every year' you  might wait for next one to be felt special and to keep that essence of being special around you I would like wish you belated happy birthday repeatedly.

Now, your gym trainned fit mind would ask why open letter......

This is not just a blog or letter but my blessings for your successfully happy life. I do believe that when we write something from heart to whom we love unconditionally, our blessings get locked inside composed words and whenever someone including you read it ; these blessings get unwrapped  and work miraculously again and again.

I know you also have same admirations and I absolutely love it when you express the same by sharing something of you to me. Though your remark about our age gap come in between. For me, having age gap; really don't matter because you could learn from my past mistakes to make better future choices and have someone to ask experimental things to proporous your life.
Anyway difference in thinking drawn by 'age gap' couldn't put strong bond of sisterhood on threshold. 

You have witnessed, every endeavor and hardship I’ve faced and supported me; sometimes guided too. You are the 'one' to whom I can always confide in and trust. I will be always thankful. I also want to apologise for that time when I was not there to listen your side or hold your hand.
I was busy in managing my family; rest of things you know.I do remember, many mesmerrisng moments of our together that help me when I was badly hurt and I never get carried away by them instead it made me strong. 

Dear sister, we just don't share 'divine parents' and 'sensible brother' but a bond beyond quotes. Remember people are born with their kind problems. Owing to many of cowards who blame destiny and people around for all ungratefullness;  few being focused keep going to achieve ultimate goal ; so understand the process as you are likely to be one of 'few' and have very keen inner strength. You have charismatic persona that you built up yourself ; positivity and gratitude will make it long lasting.

One last advice: Many times when things are not in our hand 'Win-win situation' could be a help.

"Live up to the full extent of your beautiful life by shaking one hand to responsibilities and hold self-esteem by other one."- Dad.

Always with you to remind  " you are too special". Blessed to love you sister.

Belated happy birthday!!!!